Saturday, November 15, 2008

Step 3: Finding The Right Words

Steven was lying on his bed ready to go to sleep. Before he slept, he reflected on what he did today hopefully he will not repeat the same mistake the next time something similar popped up. During his recollection, he smiled. Thinking of a particular situation where he felt embarrassed if he ever share it with anyone.

He recalled of his first experience in trying to find the right words to say. When he was small, he has this close friend, Recca. One day, he found out that Recca was hospitalised. Recca needed surgery. Therefore, she stayed at the hospital for quite some time. When she came back from the hospital, Steven couldn't find enough courage to go over and visit her mainly because he couldn't find the right words to speak.

At one fine day, Steven's mom told Steven that Recca wants to see him. Steven went over but before he could say anything, Recca gave him a bear hug. It was at that moment that he realized, his presence was what that matters. Even if there were words exchanged, he couldn't had remembered.

Even up till today, he felt a little more courageous but he still find difficulties in searching for the right words to say. He still find it awkward when he received personal questions in which he usually brushed it off with something silly. He even hesitated to voice out his feelings for the person he had a crushed on.

Sometimes he wonder,"Why do I struggle so much with words when it involves sharing my personal feelings with those i care the most?"

He once asked for an opinion from his friend Dominique.

"Stop being sensitive and say what you want to say. If you don't feel like saying it den don't say la. Not like people are asking when was your 'first' time," Dominique answered sarcastically but it was of goodwill.

He begun to giggle while he was still lying on his bed thinking of that idiotic answer Dominique gave him. Before he fell asleep, he thought of Recca, at that moment, all that matters to her was his presence. Even if he had nothing to say, she will be delighted. It was never about saying the right words; rather, it was about being present, in communication with someone we care about.


Think about the last time you received a greeting card. Do you remember the message on the card or the person that sent you the card? Reflect on your previous dinner outing with your friends, do you remember what you ate and drink or the ones who were present?

Words can answer a thousand questions, Your presence meant more than a thousand answers.

Come back next week for more motivational stories shared by Steven.

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